Intentional Living | How We Date Our Kids (all 6 of them!)
Shane and I always knew we wanted at least 4 when we first got married and I always dreamed that having my kids closer in age would be so fun-- but there was no predicting just how close they’d actually get to be. (seriously, i didn’t know it was possible until it happened! haha) The more we talked about having kids and when we actually got to experience having one for the first time, the more our desire for having a big family grew.
The longing to give them all of my full attention has never really gone away (does it for any mother, though?). I still want to give them the most of me that I possibly can. And because I know I can’t be 6 six people at once, I know that means being creative and more intentional with my time and how we are raising them. One of my biggest desires is wanting them to grow up knowing they had a mom that was all in for them, who was present and always a safe place for them. That they could look back on their childhood feeling like they were seen and heard and known-- even among a big family.
(pics from my first one on one dates with the twins and Raleigh--and now I'm crying a little :))
(p.s. I love matching with my girls any chance we get-- and so far they have loved it too. Our matching shoes here are a gift from Sols and they're the perfect fit for spring/summertime. You can use code COLEY10 to get yourself 10% off too)
Ideas for dates:
-Pick up a puzzle or two from the dollar store and make them together at a coffee shop
-Take them out to breakfast for some smiley pancakes or french toast
-Go putt or hit balls at the local golf course
-Grab a free cookie at AJs Fine Foods (they give cookies to kids for free) and a lemonade and hangout on the grass (we love going to the one at Uptown Plaza in Central Phx)
-Take a little bike ride around the park
-Make a picnic together and to take it to the park
-Pick out a game to play together at a coffee shop
-Go out to eat Ice cream at a fun place. (We love Churn and Sweet Republic)
-Tea party at a tea shop with a dollar store tea set. We’ve gone to Milk Run to get boba tea or gelato and love it there.
-Let them plan it and come up with fun ideas
-Bring a sketchbook along and draw pictures of your date in it together. I started one a couple years ago and it's fun to look back on what we did and how much better they’re getting at drawing over the years.
-Get yourself a Loom journal-- I love how this journal allows you to connect with your child. I just started using it more with Raleigh (my 7 yo.) since she's been getting better at reading and writing and she loves it
-Grab pizza together for dinner and ask each other questions or play the game 20 questions
-Get dressed up and have them choose a “fancy”dinner out
-Walk around the mall site seeing (maybe do each other’s makeup for fun at the beauty store :))
-Go to an art museum together. I took Raleigh to Wonderspace one time and it was so much fun to do together
-Bring paints and canvas on a picnic to paint a picture together-- makes for a special keepsake later on
-Get donuts and walk around a cute neighborhood playing I Spy
-Go to a local farm and visit some animals
-Take them to a bookstore and find a cozy corner to read some new books together in
-Explore outside on a little hiking trail and collect things together along the way